上周bbc新闻。有对英国籍男女在阿联酋被判入狱一个月。怎么闯的祸呢？这一对倒霉鬼在迪拜的一间餐厅里聊天。隔壁桌两岁大的当地小孩忽然跟妈妈说两人在亲嘴呢！妈妈很愤怒，这两无耻之徒怎么可以在大庭广众之下让孩子看到如此道德伦败之事呢？于是妈妈报案了。
是不是这年头的小孩都变聪明了？我想我两岁的时候，应该对亲嘴这事没概念吧？两被告上诉说自己没亲嘴，只是男的亲了亲女的的脸颊罢了。不知道当时的座位布局及其角度干系是否被判官考虑在内？还是这案子是杀鸡儆猴用的？男的是英国土生土长的阿拉伯人。有些人认为，这次的判决，和男士的基因有关。
个人认为多数国家的多数法律是应该被尊重的。敝人只是对断手以及死刑有意见，不过脑子里有看法是脑子里的事，人家国法不屑你脑子里同不同意。所以到了哪个地方都该遵守法律、尊重当地文化，因为不知者还是有罪的。
今天有感而发，是因为这案子让我回忆起一些事情。
知道我的第一个不雅手势是怎么学的吗?
那时大概小三或小四吧。我正兴高采烈地跟一位大姐姐形容一部武侠电影里的打斗情形 - 就是大侠如何用筷子筒接恶人扔向他的夺命筷子。我用手演绎此景，姐姐马上说别弄那手势，因为这是个不好的手势！老实说，若姐姐没那反应，我也不会意识到原来那手势是不雅的，而这件事我也根本不会记得。好了，姐姐的一番道德教诲反而教会了我我不应该知道的东西。其实那 F 字骂人的脏话我也是这么学的。那时候好像小二吧。我和妈妈在咖啡店里，我看见外头的墙上涂鸦了4个字母。我问妈妈是什么，妈妈很不高兴地说是很不好的东西。这下子，我学会了。
所以说嘛，那两岁的小孩会知道亲嘴是什么东西吗？两岁大的小孩说的亲嘴概念上和大人一样吗？ 她妈妈如果不搭理，小孩兴许把事情忘了，然后单纯地多过几年？现在事情闹大了，小孩也懂了。两岁呀，太早了点吧!
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/8602449.stm
On the BBC last week, a British couple were sentenced to a month's jail in the UAE for kissing in public. A 2 year old local girl who happened to be in the same restaurant with her mother, told her mother she saw the two kissing on the mouth. Her mother was very angry that a 2 year old be allowed to see such an immoral act in public, and promptly called the police. The extent of the kiss I am not sure, but couple was consequently charged with breaking decency laws in the country.
This is not a post about respecting laws in other countries. I think most laws in most countries should be respected. So far I have problems with chopping off hands and the death penalty (in service in my own country), but I have a right to my own views, and I'd go all the way out to avoid getting into trouble. No point whinging when you should have known better.
I'm writing because it brought back some memories.
Guess how I learnt my first rude hand gesture?
I was in primary three or four, and was excitedly trying to describe to a (much) older friend a scene from a martial arts film, where the good guy caught chopsticks hurled at him by the bad guy with a bamboo chopstick holder. I used hand gestures to illustrate, and my friend immediately stopped me and said I had just done a bad gesture. Now, if she had not said anything, I would never have known that the gesture is rude, and would have just forgotten about the whole thing. But because she reacted, I learnt something I should not have.
The F word was acquired the same way. One day when I was in primary two sitting in a coffeeshop with my mum, I noticed a four lettered graffiti on a wall outside. I asked mum what it meant, and mum said in a very annoyed tone that it's a very bad word. So there you go, it stuck. These unsavory things I would have picked up sooner or later, but the way I went about acquiring them is interesting - from the very people trying to protect me.
So I wonder had her mother's reaction been different, maybe the little girl would simply forget about the matter, and continue with her blissful innocent life (for a few more years anyway).The whole point is to protect children's innocence, is it not? But now she knows. Two years of age is a bit early to be aware of mouth kissing, don't you think?
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